Feeling bound by roles

 Q:  I do not like when others see me as a mother or daughter or wife.  I feel bound by these roles. What to do? 

Dear,

we are two. We are ego as well as the Self.   You are mother as well as pure Self.  Both are like circumference and centre.  When your children call you as mother, they refer your role, not you.  The society cannot see what you are really inside. They will see only your body and all relationships are relationships of body.  Not only in family, wherever we go, we must play some role.  If you go to office, then, you will be called as an employee.  If you go to a shop, you will be called as a customer.   

Let them call you by a role, but you stay as Self.  Do not identify as a role. Then, the Self will guide you how to perform the role in a right way.  You will be a good mother, daughter when you know you are not a mother and daughter.   It is paradox, but true.  

Do not expect others must see you as Self, not as body.  It would be difficult for them now.  Once they mature, then they may be able to see your essence.  You must know that you are free  soul.  From that freedom, act your roles in the world.  

 Remember that you are empty and free inside while playing the roles.  This is remembrance of God.  Then, all your relationships will be Godly relationships.