How can I change my lonely attitude?

Dear,

Loneliness is a feeling of sadness. It's a feeling of being left out while others are enjoying party and have fun. It is seeking the company of others. It's uncomfortable and you want to come out of it, right?

Look around yourself. What do you see? You live in this world. There are many objects and sun, moor,stars,trees,flowers, animals and human beings are there. How do you look at the world? You are one side. They are on the other side. Do you feel any connection with any of them? It is obvious that you feel lonely and separate. This sense of separation and loneliness is because we have considered ourselves to be only body. Who am I? I am this body. The body is material. Materials are different from each other and they cannot merge with each other completely. It is their nature.

You do many things to get rid of loneliness or you may call it emptiness. Hoping a piece of cake can fulfill the emptiness, you eat a cake. It gives a momentary pleasure or satisfaction, the tummy is full, but you find yourself still empty. You watch a movie, go to shopping mall even there you feel lonely amidst the crowd, chat with friends and relatives, have a drink, connect to face book, but are you feel really connected with anybody? Are not you still lonely?

We are afraid to be lonely. The world seems to stand up against us. It looks like an opponent, a competitor, a promising source of happiness or potential threat. We want someone to be with us, caring loving and fulfilling our needs. If suppose we get someone who seems to be filling the hole with in, we become dependent on them. We become so attached to them, that we cannot leave them free. This suffering for one self and the other.

Those who want to escape from loneliness get into the trap of attachment, eventually. Do you see this?

So, let us come back to your question. How to change the attitude of loneliness?

The first thing we need to understand is we can’t get rid of loneliness as far as we are considering ourself to be confined to body and mind. Each one is different in body and mind. So, stop trying to escape from loneliness. It only shows you that you are longing for something immense and real that cannot leave you away forever, not petty objects or little people.

We are not just body and thoughts. There is one unchanging common core in us. We can call it as Truth or Aloneness or Godliness.

Each and every cell in our body is different and their functions are different, They live separately, die separately. Yet the body is one. If you look at the difference, there is loneliness and incompleteness. If you change your attitude to look at the whole, then it is aloneness.

Spirituality is movement from loneliness to aloneness.

• “Only by being totally at rest can one bring about great movement.
  By being alone, great connectedness.
  By being nothing, great creation.” ~ Acharya Prashant.